If you have to sacrifice your needs to be loved, that's not love.
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When I was younger, my entire understanding of relationships was built on some messed up misconceptions.
I felt like "love" was supposed to be self-sacrificial. It was supposed to be self-abandoning. You loved her more than your own life and would do ANYTHING to keep her. (Cue dramatic Korean Drama music)
Yeah, turns out that's all WRONG.
"We're inseparable. I literally can't live without her, and she can't live without me."
So romantic, right? Yeah bud, that's called Co-dependency.
"I can't say no to him. He gets jealous and angry because he just loves me so much. He doesn't let me talk to other guys, that's how much he loves me."
Yikes. That's controlling and abusive. GTFO.
The problem with this is that often times the "I can't imagine my life without you" kind of love is based on a traumatic fear.
See, when we were little, our relationship with our parents were the main one we had. They were LITERALLY gods to us-- after all, they created us and can...
